And its not just going to therapy…
Your bae has finally dropped down on one knee and popped the question in front of your family and friends and you two have decided to live happily ever after with each other. Before you head down that aisle, here are a few things you and your partner should do before you tie the knot.
Go to premarital counseling
Premarital counseling isn’t as expensive as you think. Some couples skip this step and those relationship tend to end fairly quickly. If you watched Michelle Williams’ from Destiny’s Child reality show…then you know why I put this at the top of the list.
Discuss the name change
Fellas, you may ASSUME that your bride to be is more than ready to change her last name but do you know that FOR SURE? I know a few ladies who have gotten hitched and have yet to change their last name. If this is something that’s important to you, I suggest you have that conversation before getting married.
Because if you ever truly want to get to know someone…sharing a living space is the quickest way to do that. I’m just saying…
Talk about finances
This may be uncomfortable, but its important that your partner knows what they are getting into. It’s also helpful to discuss how you will divide living expenses, where you will live, and how (and what) to save.
Take a trip!
Sure vacationing is fun…but traveling together is also a easy way to learn about your partner handles stressful situations.
Understand each other Values
If you partner is a staunch republican who is pro 45 and you are liberal democrat…then I can imagine there has to be some level of common ground that both would have to come to. Understanding where each of you stand on the topics such as politics, religion, and family dynamics will save you a lot of trouble and heartbreak in the future.
If and when you two plan to have children should definitely be discussed prior to getting married. Take Jeanie Mai for example. The now-divorced host of The Real made it known that she did not want to have children when she married her ex-husband. Eventually, her husband left her and had child with another woman. Sad…very much so. But it serves as a perfect example as to why we need to be upfront and honest about having children BEFORE getting married.
Meet friends of the opposite sex
You heard me. There’s a saying that men and women can’t be friends but I happen to disagree with that. However, I do think that if you have a close friend of the opposite sex that its important that your partner meets him/her. To be honest they should have been acquainted if you two have come this far. Nothing would be more uncomfortable than meeting your fiance’s “friend” (aka some man/woman you have never met or seen before) the day of your wedding.
There you have it. I hope these tips lead you to one happy ever after with your beau!