Do You REALLY Need Marriage Counseling Before The Big Day?

Have you watched Michelle Williams’ reality show with her now former fiance Chad Johnson?

Chad Loves Michelle followed the life and relationship of R&B/Gospel singer Michelle Williams and Pastor Chad Johnson. As a single woman who has a relationship with God, I was interested to see how these two navigated their relationship and how she balances her mental health with her relationship. I mean…the sista had A LOT going on..

I definitely applaud Michelle for being so transparent about her mental health. It can’t imagine it being easy to talk about such heavy issues but as a public figure I feel the conversations surrounding the topic are very necessary. Michelle’s public relationship with Chad is doing the same thing.

I felt so bad for Michelle after watching this clip, ya’ll. That’s borderline emotional abuse to be honest. If it wasn’t for marriage counseling, I don’t think Michelle would have seen these obvious red flags. They eventually ended their engagement and called it quits and fans who watched the show gave one collective sigh of relief. (We were NOT here for ol’ boy!)

All of this drama with Michelle Williams got me thinking about us regular folk. I honestly don’t know much about the topic of marriage. My parents divorced when I was 15 and I don’t think they have spoken since. Is marriage counseling a requirement? What do you do if you want to go to marriage counseling and your partner does not? I know one thing, after watching Chad Loves Michelle if I EVER decide to get married I most definitely will be going to marriage counseling to find out truly just who the hell I’m getting married to! Here are some reasons as to why you should go to marriage counseling before your big day.

Better Communication

As in the clip above, it’s clear there was some sort of miscommunication between Chad and Michelle in regards to when they would actually get married. Communication is such a big part of any relationship and the last thing you want to do is go into a marriage with any miscommunication.

History of Infidelity

If you or your partner strayed in the past, more than likely there are some deep unresolved feelings that need to be worked out. No matter how many times you say you have “moved passed that”, once someone breaks your trust its really hard to be fully open with that person again. Premarital counseling can help you work through those issues before your big day.

Address Differences or Issues

You were raised Catholic. He’s Muslim. You want to live close to your family in the South. He wants to reside in a big city. You don’t want children right away. He wants to start planning on your honeymoon. Where is the happy medium? Are these small compromises you are willing to make or is it more important to you that you live close to family than you thought? If you and your partner can’t make a decision on something so simple like where you two will be living then maybe marriage isn’t right for you.

Whether you are planning to get married or have already jumped the broom, you shouldn’t be afraid to seek some sort of counseling when it comes to your relationship. Do what you have to do to make sure you and yours are happy and if it doesn’t work out…know that you tried your best!


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